This time that changes….

​I guess time changes things…. but yes, I never could have imagined it would change the people around me to such an extent. Not the blood relations maybe, they remain kind of same because all of us know that they can’t be changed… but what about friendships, relations that we create for ourselves as we move forward…. They do change because those friends or well-wishers or whatever we may call them have a choice. Choice to stay or choice to leave… unlike relations, who even though being blessed with this choice, prefer not to choose them and amazingly the queerest thing about human emotions is that it cares far more for those relations than the blood ones, maybe, even after knowing that they might be temporary. Sad… isn’t it?

So, as I sit quietly, observing my friends and well-wishers and wondering what made them change so much, I just feel this hollowness. I smile at them, a fake one, to hide all that I have been feeling about them. How can I tell them that they have changed…? How can I ask them why they are treating me like this?

Yes, that does not mean I haven’t tried, I have, and the reaction shocked me even more than their behaviour. They just behaved like nothing even happened! Even though they didn’t laugh at me but their behaviour proved that I wasn’t wrong. Maybe I am reacting too much, thinking too much but who will not feel the need of knowing the purposes of people around us… after someone whom I thought would stay forever had already left me?

It seems just so justified… though I can’t rate it right or wrong but it is just the way I feel…I am sure you must have felt the same way at some point of time… isn’t it?

So as I said before… Is it me or is it you?

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Change hurts…

Take some time out for yourself and ask yourself how much have you changed?
I am sure the answer will baffle you.

Life means change. As we see around ourselves, nothing, absolutely nothing is stable.
You know the things that change people the most?  They are love and pain.
Both are connected, joined, incomplete without each other.
When I suggest you to do something, I do it myself first…
So when I asked this question to myself, I found out I have changed much. Even in ways which I couldn’t have ever imagined.
I don’t talk about good changes or bad. There is no such thing like that, it all depends upon….  perspective. But one thing that is true enough is that these changes, do hurt.

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Be brave..

You know the fact is that the things which you love become your habit and then that habit becomes you. Let us take an eg. I loved. I cared. I sacrificed. It became my habit. Usually we state these things as good but have you ever asked the person who loves, how difficult it is to love?  How painful it is to sacrifice? 
Then how can one state these as good?  It is just good for the other people but no one cares about that person who sacrifices, who cares. All they do is show a mere gratitude and humility but…  Does that help that person in reducing his pain?  Does it help him to smile when all he has, are tears?
Then comes a time when pain grabs the most of him and he…  that loving and sacrificing person changes. Changes into someone which is far more destructive and to be honest which is just not…  him.

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Nothing could be more truer...

That is how people change.
My dear readers, we blame people, we hate people for what they did to us and sometimes for what they just are..  but no one asks them how that change came.
Do not be the biased one because your beauty lies in understanding others.
People will never award you with the same respect, the same love which you gave them but that doesn’t that they should be hated.
It is all just a game of expectations. A deadly game which destroys relations.
And we, we should know better than that.

Yes,
Changes are inevitable, necessary.
Changes happen for a reason, they happen because of a reason.
But never let those changes,  those reasons, get the best of you.
If you love someone and you feel they don’t love you the same, let those expectations go. You wont get this time again. Live your life. Love people because this universe will only make sense when you someone to share your feelings with. Changes will happen, welcome them but don’t let them rule.

Don’t let the guests,  be the owners…

Stay happy. Take care. I will see you again.